Have you ever had to do something that you didn’t want to do?
My daughter was recently reminiscing about one of her childhood traumas. When she refused to eat the two or three green beans on her plate at dinner, her father or I would give her more. She was disturbed by this, saying, “If I didn’t eat two or three, how in the heck was I going to eat a spoonful.” To avoid this dreaded fate, she would spit the green beans into a napkin or feed them to the dog. To this day, she dislikes green beans.
A friend relayed a similar experience. She said that her Dad’s house plants were well fed the unwanted bull fries.
While the topic of this column is not to villainize certain foods, I do think that these examples demonstrate how we as humans resist doing something we don’t want to do.
This week, I was asked to do a task that I didn’t want to do and didn’t believe was the best choice. I could feel the resistance in my body. My emotions of sadness, anger and fear were tied to my resistance. The less I wanted to comply, the greater my discomfort.
I know that acceptance is the key. So, after acknowledging my feelings as valid, I knew I needed to take the next right step. One step at a time, the way opened, and I was able to move closer to acceptance.
In 2020 we have been faced with many things we didn’t want. Maybe we didn’t want to quarantine. Perhaps we didn’t want another helping of DHMs. Whether the resistance is to wearing a mask or respecting who will be the next president, acceptance is the key.
When I feel resistance, it is okay to acknowledge how I feel. However, the only way out of the discomfort I feel is one next right step at a time. I can choose gratitude, kindness, hope and respect.